1. Do Not Interfere
In Others' Business Unless Asked:
Most of us create our own problems by interfering too often
in others' affairs. We do so because somehow we have convinced ourselves that
our way is the best way, our logic is the perfect logic and those who do not
conform to our thinking must be criticized and steered to the right direction,
i.e. our direction. This thinking denies the existence of individuality and
consequently undermines the Intelligence and Creativity that is only attributed
to Allah. Allah has created each one of us in a unique way. No two human beings
can think or act in exactly the same way. All men or women act the way they do
because Allah has made each one of us different, with different personalities.
Be patient with one another, and mind your own business and you will keep your
peace.
2. Forgive And
Forget:
This is the most powerful aid to peace of mind, but also
challenging to achieve. We often develop ill feelings inside our heart for the
person who insult us or harm us. We nurture grievances resulting in loss of
sleep, development of stomach ulcers, and high blood pressure. We further
aggravate stress in ourselves by remembering, and reminding ourselves of the
very persons that caused us harm. Get over this bad habit. Life is too short to
waste in such trifles. Forgive, forget, and march on. Love flourishes in giving
and forgiving.
3. Do Not Crave For
Recognition:
This world is full of selfish people. They seldom praise
anybody without selfish motives. They may praise you today because you are in
power, but no sooner than you are powerless; they will forget your achievement
and will start finding faults in you. Why do you wish to kill yourself in
striving for their recognition? Do your duties ethically and sincerely, and
only seek the pleasure of Allah through Salah and Ibadah.
4. Do Not Be Jealous:
We all have experienced how jealousy can disturb our peace
of mind. You know that you work harder than your colleagues in the office, but
sometimes they get promotions; you do not. You started a business several years
ago, but you are not as successful as your neighbour whose business is only a
one year old. There are several examples like these in everyday life. Should
you be jealous? No. Remember, a person's life is shaped by their destiny, which
becomes their reality. If you are destined to be rich, nothing in the world can
stop you. And if you are destined to be poor, then no matter what you do, you
will only be what you are destined to be. Nothing will be gained by blaming
others for your misfortune. Jealousy will not get you anywhere; it will only
take away your peace of mind.
5. Change Yourself:
If you try to change the environment single-handedly, the
chances are you will fail. Instead, change yourself to suit your environment.
As you do this, even the environment, which has been unfriendly to you, will
mysteriously change and seem congenial and harmonious.
6. Endure What Cannot
Be Cured:
Every day we face numerous inconveniences, ailments,
irritations, and accidents that are beyond our control. If we cannot control
them or change them, we must learn to put up with these things. We must learn
to endure them cheerfully. Believe in yourself and you will gain in terms of
patience, inner strength and will power.
7. Do Not Bite Off
More Than You Can Chew:
We often tend to take more responsibilities than we are
capable of. This is done to satisfy our ego. Know your limitations. Why take on
additional loads that may create more worries? You cannot gain peace of mind by
expanding your external activities. Reduce your material engagements and spend
time in prayer, and introspection. It will prevent you from thinking of matters
that upset you. An uncluttered mind is a peaceful mind.
8. Make Regular
Dhikr:
Dhikr, the remembrance of Allah, calms the mind and gets rid
of disturbing thoughts. Try it yourself. If you do tasbih, dhikr, whenever you
are free, your mind will be at peace during the day. Your mind will not be
easily disturbed as it was before. You may think that this will interfere with
your daily work. On the contrary, this will increase your efficiency and you
will be able to produce better results in less time.
9. Never Leave The
Mind Vacant:
An empty mind is the devil's workshop. Keep your mind
occupied in something positive, something worthwhile and negative thoughts will
not plague your mind. Actively follow a hobby, something that holds your
interest. You must decide what you value more: money or peace of mind. Your
hobby, like social work or religious work, may not always earn you more money,
but you will have a sense of fulfillment and achievement. Even when you are
resting physically, occupy yourself in healthy reading or mental chanting of
God's name.
10. Do Not
Procrastinate And Never Regret:
Do not waste time in protracted wondering, "Should I or
shouldn't I?" You can never plan enough because you can never fully
anticipate all future happenings. Value your time and do the things that need
to be done now. It does not matter if you fail the first time, so long as you
don't leave it for tomorrow. You can learn from your mistakes and succeed the
next time. Sitting back and worrying will lead to nothing. DO NOT REGRET.
Whatever happened was destined to happen. Why cry over spilt milk?
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